being insecure

Assalamualaikum

insecure. kurang yakin akan diri sendiri. aku rasa ramai je yang rasa insecure akan sesuatu. aku pun banyak mempunyai insecurities nie. especially bila pasal fizikal dan kelebihan. being insecure nie influence sikap kita. maybe akan jadikan kita seorang yang tidak bersyukur dengan apa yang ada. jadikan kita lebih dan sangat pemalu dan mengelakkan diri kita berjumpa dengan pelbagai jenis orang. takut orang judge kita. dan takut kita judge diri kita. if u know what i mean XD

effect of insecurity

The most common critical inner voices Dr.’s Robert and Lisa Firestone found people to experience throughout their day include: (source)

You’re stupid.

You’re unattractive.

You’re not like other people.

You’re a failure.

You never get anything right.

No one will ever love you.

You’re fat.

You’re such a loser.

You’ll never make friends.

You’ll never be able to quit drinking (smoking etc).

You’ll never accomplish anything.

What’s the point in even trying?

insecurity nie pun ada jenis insecurity in works, in relationship.

i got insecurity of being exposed to people. i tend to compare myself with peoples and list out my weakness and feel down and drown with my own feeling.

good things is i always want to improve myself day by day. being jealous and insecure is just a feeling. i never hold grudge. 

so, this are how to stop being insecure :

1. change your mindset

• Distinguish between what is real and what is imaginary.
• Know that your insecurity is invisible.
• Believe that nothing is what it seems.
• Listen and accept your feelings.

2.  improve your self-image

• If you do compare yourself to someone, compare yourself to you.
• List out all your good qualities.
• Take care of your body, your space, and your time.
• Define your boundaries. 
• When in doubt, fake it.

3. taking action

• Start a self-esteem file. 
• Surround yourself with those who make you feel good.
• Find work you love.
• Face your obstacles and wounds.
• Change what you cannot accept.

read full article at wikihow

kalau rajin korang baca la kat wikihow. aku malas nak menaip banyak. HAHA. yang di list tu cuma main point je. untuk dapat kefahaman yang lebih nyata baca la artikel full kat link yang diberikan. kalau malas macam aku, pepandai la fikir sendiri. hehehehe~ 

bagi aku la kan, dalam apa semua yang kita buat dan fikir, be positive je, dan spread positive vibes to all people around you. jangan sedih and marah je memanjang. hahahaha. do all things you want as long as it doesnt harm peoples and following the syariat. paling penting dekatkan diri dengan ALLAH dan agama. paling penting lagi jangan rosakkan diri sendiri dengan fikir bebukan. berubah dengan baek. jadi pemalu takpa, sebab pemalu perisai orang beriman. cewahhh~ hahahahhaa :)

stop being insecure and smile! *note to self yang rasa diri insecure gila T^T*

senyum je la. walaupun engko takut senyum lepas makan takut cili lekat kat gigi dan walaupun gigi tak rata atau kuning sekalipun. 

sekian, ilal liqa'